I have thought about this issue many times before and it finally happens on one of my closest friend. Her ex-boyfriend passed away very recently due to a tragic accident. I really don't know about the incident in detail, I only found out about it today when I read my friend's blog. I seems like he was walking back from uni when a speeding car hit him and he sustained skull fracture and internal bleeding when sent to the hospital. Only his organs were functioning at the time, but not the brain. He had to be put on life support system for 24 hours in hopes of having his own ability to sustain himself but failed. Doctor had no choice but to remove the life support system and pronounced him dead.

It's really a very tragic thing to hear. JY is a final year engineering student at Monash University and given more time, he would be having a really bright future awaiting. Guess we really cannot go against fate. If it's fated that this would be the way, we really cannot do anything about it. At least he knows he's being loved and missed by many...

Back to the point of me writing this post. Imagine your ex died tragically all of a sudden. How would you deal with it? I have asked myself this same question many times before and I really cannot answer. Although it may sound like an ex is just an ex, not even your current boyfriend or girlfriend. Thing is, imagine this certain someone was once your everything in life and you have been so close to him/her for a period of time, remained friends even after the break up and suddenly you realise he or she is gone forever. I really don't know how to deal with this, seriously.

Which is why it's very important to be nice and appreciate everyone around us be it your family, friends, current or exes. Especially when you're dating someone and you did something real nasty to him/her, when one fine day he/she leaves this world suddenly you will have the regrets and guilt in you forever until the day you die. I have even extended my thought, what if your ex cut all ties and contact with you... no longer remaining as friends with you? Well, I guess you cannot force how the other party want to react and handle this but at least on my side, I would wish him/her all the best from afar. 

I really hope I won't be the last to die among the significant people around me. It's very painful to see them leaving you one by one especially when it involves some sudden and tragic death. It's very unexpected. My friend's case, I feel it hardly too. Because I am quite close with this friend and she told me quite a number of things about her relationship with this guy. And I have seen the guy in person before, although we've never spoken to each other. It makes me think, one moment he's there... standing in front of me, walking, talking and enjoying himself. The other moment he's no longer breathing.

Imagine your ex, someone who used to be so close to you lying in the coffin... Cold and frozen... Never would he/she open his/her eyes to look at you again. Never will listen to you talking to him/her again... No matter how hard you try to wake him/her up. I can understand why my friend can't get herself to attend his funeral. I would not have the courage to attend too, if I am in her situation. I can't bear the sight of his motionless body, that would haunt me forever. Everything happened so sudden, I myself find it hard to believe to accept it.

Deepest condolence to his family members and friends. My prayers are with all of you. Rest in peace, CJY. Be strong, my dearest CXY. I will be your shoulder to cry on if you need me...